Rules about Intercourse.

1. Yahya related to me from Malik from Ibn Shihab said that Ibn Al- Musayyab رضي الله عنه said, “If someone marries a woman and cannot have intercourse with her, there is a deadline of a year set for him to have intercourse with her. If he does not, they are separated.” : Reference Muwatta Malik : 1236; Book No. 29, In English; Book no. 29, Hadees no 74.

2. Narrated by Ibn Abbas رضي الله عنه that Nabi صلی اللہ علیہ وسلم said, “If anyone of you, when having sexual intercourse with his wife, says:

اللَّهُمَّ جَنِّبْنِي الشَّيْطَانَ، وَجَنِّبِ الشَّيْطَانَ مَا رَزَقْتَنَا،

(Bismillah, Allahumma jannibni-Sh-Shaitaan wa jannib-ish-Shaitan ma razaqtana)

and if it is destiny that they should have a child, then satan will never be able to harm him.” : Reference Bukhari: 5165; Book no. 67; In English volume no. 7; Book no. 62; Hadees no. 94.

3. A’isha رضي الله عنها reported Whenever Nabi صلی اللہ علیہ وسلم intended to sleep after having sexual intercourse; He performed ablution (wazoo) as for the prayer before going to sleep. : Reference Muslim 305 A; Book no. 3; In English; Book no. 3; Hadees no. 597.

4. A’isha رضي الله عنها reported Whenever Nabi صلی اللہ علیہ وسلم had sexual intercourse and intended to eat or sleep; He performed the ablution (wazoo) of prayer. : Reference Muslim 305 B; Book no. 3; In English; Book no. 3; Hadees no. 598.

5. Abu Saeed Al-Khudri رضي الله عنه reported that Nabi صلی اللہ علیہ وسلم said, when any of you has intercourse with his wife and desire to repeat it, he should perform ablution (wazoo) between them. : Reference Abu Dawud: 220; Book no. 1; In English Book no. 1; Hadees no. 220.

6. Narrated by Abu Hurairah رضي الله عنه that Nabi صلی اللہ علیہ وسلم said, “When a man sits between the four parts (arms and legs of his wife) and has intercourse, then bath is obligatory.”  : Reference Ibn Ma-jah: 610; Book no. 34; In English volume no. 1; Book no. 1, Hadees no 653.

7. Urwa رضي الله عنها has narrated it on the authority of A’isha رضي الله عنها that when Nabi صلی اللہ علیہ وسلم took a bath because of sexual intercourse, He صلی اللہ علیہ وسلم first washed His hands before dipping one of them into the basin, and then performed ablution (wazoo) as is done for prayer. : Reference Muslim 316 D; Book no. 3; In English; Book no. 3; Hadees no. 619.

8. A’isha رضي الله عنها reported When Nabi صلی اللہ علیہ وسلم took a bath because of sexual intercourse, He صلی اللہ علیہ وسلم called for a vessel and took a handful of water from it and first (washed) the right side of His head, then left, and then took a handful (of water) and poured it on His head. : Reference Muslim: 318; Book no. 3; In English; Book no. 3; Hadees no. 623

9. Narrated by A’isha رضي الله عنها that Nabi صلی اللہ علیہ وسلم used to take a bath from four things; after sexual intercourse, on Fridays, after extracting blood from his body (hijamah) and after washing a dead body. : Reference Bulugh Al-Maram: 112; Book No. 1, In English; Book no. 1, Hadees no 120.

10. Narrated by A’isha رضي الله عنها that Whenever Nabi صلی اللہ علیہ وسلم took Ghusl (bath) after sexual intercourse, He صلی اللہ علیہ وسلم would washing His hands, then pour water with His right hand, on His left hand and wash His sexual organ. He صلی اللہ علیہ وسلم would then perform ablution (wazoo), then toke some water and run his fingers through the roots of the hair. Then He صلی اللہ علیہ وسلم would pour three handfuls on His head, then pour water over the rest of His body and subsequently wash His feet. : Reference Bulugh Al-Maram: 119; Book No. 1, In English; Book no. 1, Hadees no 128.

11. Abdullah Bin Abu’l-Qais رضي الله عنه reported I asked ‘A’isha رضي الله عنها about the Witr (prayer) of Nabi صلی اللہ علیہ وسلم and made mention of a Hadees, then I asked, what did He صلی اللہ علیہ وسلم do after having sexual intercourse? Did He take a bath before going to sleep or did He صلی اللہ علیہ وسلم sleep before taking a bath? She رضي الله عنها replied, He صلی اللہ علیہ وسلم did all these. Some- times He صلی اللہ علیہ وسلم took a bath and then slept, and sometimes He صلی اللہ علیہ وسلم performed ablution (wazoo) only and went to sleep. I (the narrator) said: Praise be to Allah Who has made things easy (for human beings). : Reference Muslim : 307 A; Book no. 3; In English; Book no. 3; Hadees no. 603.

12. Narrated by A’isha رضي الله عنها that Nabi صلی اللہ علیہ وسلم used to sleep in the early part of the night, and woke up in the latter part. If Heﷺ then wished intercourse with his wife, he satisfied His desire, and then went to sleep; and when the first call to prayer was made He jumped up (by Allah, she, i. e. ‘A’isha, did not say” he stood up” ), and poured water over him (by Allah she, i. e. A’isha did not say that he took a bath but I know what she meant) and if he did not have an intercourse, he performed ablution, just as a man performs ablution for prayer and then observed two rak’ahs. : Reference Muslim: 739; Book no. 6; In English; Book no. 4; Hadees no. 1612.

13. Narrated by Mu’awiyah Bin Abu Sufyan رضي الله عنه that He asked his sister Umm Habibah رضي الله عنها, the wife of the Nabi صلی اللہ علیہ وسلم “Did Nabi صلی اللہ علیہ وسلم ever offer prayer in a garment in which He صلی اللہ علیہ وسلم had sexual intercourse?” She said: “Yes, if there was nothing noxious (impurity) on it.”  : Reference Ibn Ma-jah: 583; Book no. 1; In English volume no. 1; Book no. 1, Hadees no 540.

14. Narrated by Jabir Bin Samurah رضي الله عنه that “A man asked Nabi صلی اللہ علیہ وسلم whether he could perform prayer in a garment in which he had intercourse with his wife. He said: ‘Yes, unless he sees something on it, in which case he should wash it.'” : Reference Ibn Ma-jah: 585; Book no. 1; In English volume no. 1; Book no. 1, Hadees no 542

15. Narrated by Utbah Bin Abd Sulamain رضي الله عنه that Nabi صلی اللہ علیہ وسلم said: “When anyone of you has intercourse with his wife, let him cover himself and not be naked liked donkeys.”  : Reference Ibn Ma-jah: 1996; Book no. 9; In English volume no. 3; Book no. 9, Hadees no 1921.

16. Narrated by Abu Saeed Al-Khudri رضي الله عنه, A man said to Nabi صلی اللہ علیہ وسلم, I have a slave-girl and I withdraw the penis from her (while having intercourse), and I dislike that she becomes pregnant. I intend (by intercourse) what the men intend by it. The Jews say that withdrawing the penis (azl) is burying the living girls on a small scale. Nabi صلی اللہ علیہ وسلم answered the Jews told a lie. If Allah intends to create it, you cannot turn it away.  : Reference Abu Dawud: 2171; Book no. 12; In English Book no. 11; Hadees no. 2166.

17. Jabir رضي الله عنهsaid that Nabi صلی اللہ علیہ وسلم saw a woman, so He entered upon Zainab (His Wife) and had intercourse with her. Heﷺ then came out and said to His companions “A woman advances in the form of a devil. When one of you finds that, he should go to his wife (and have intercourse with her) for that will repel what he is feeling.  : Reference Abu Dawud: 2151; Book no. 12; In English Book no. 11; Hadees no. 2146.

18. Narrated by Abdullah رضي الله عنه that we were with Nabi صلی اللہ علیہ وسلم while we were young and had no wealth whatever, So Nabi صلی اللہ علیہ وسلم said, “O young people! Whoever among you can marry, should marry, because it helps him lower his gaze and guard his modesty (i.e. his private parts from committing illegal sexual intercourse etc.), and whoever is not able to marry, should fast, as fasting diminishes his sexual power.” : Reference Bukhari: 5066; Book no. 67; In English volume no. 7; Book no. 62; Hadees no. 4.

Intercourse prohibited during mens with wife, if anyone does it so: –

19. Ibn Abbas رضي الله عنه said, If one did intercourse in the beginning of the menses, (one should give) one dinar; in case one has intercourse towards the end of the menses, and then half a dinar (should be given). : Reference Abu Dawud: 265; Book no. 1; In English Book no. 1; Hadees no. 265. (It is prohibited during mens)

20. Abu Hurairah رضي الله عنه narrated that Nabi صلی اللہ علیہ وسلم said “Whoever engages in sexual intercourse with a menstruating woman, or a woman in her anus, consults a soothsayer, then he has disbelieved in what was revealed to Muhammad.” : Reference Tirmizi: 135; Book No. 1, In English volume no. 1; Book no. 1, Hadees no 135.

21. Narrated by Anas رضي الله عنه that the Jews used not to eat with a woman during her menstruation period, so Nabi صلی اللہ علیہ وسلم said: “Do everything else apart from sexual intercourse (with your wives)”. : Reference Bulugh Al-Maram: 144; Book No. 1, In English; Book no. 1, Hadees no 155. (Intercourse is prohibited in mens)

22. Narrated by Ibn Abbas رضي الله عنه that Nabi صلی اللہ علیہ وسلم said:“Whoever has intercourse with a Mahram relative, kill him; and whoever has intercourse with an animal, kill him and kill the animal.” : Reference Ibn Ma-jah: 2661; Book no. 20; In English volume no. 3; Book 20, Hadees no 2564.

23. Narrated by Abu Hurairah رضي الله عنه that Nabi صلی اللہ علیہ وسلم said, “If a lady slave commits illegal sexual intercourse and she is proved guilty of illegal sexual intercourse, then she should be flogged (fifty stripes) but she should not be admonished; and if she commits illegal sexual intercourse again, then she should be flogged again but should not be admonished; and if she commits illegal sexual intercourse for the third time, then she should be sold even for a hair rope.” : Reference Bukhari: 6839; Book no. 86; In English volume no. 8; Book no. 82; Hadees no. 823.

24. Narrated by Zaid Bin Khalid رضي الله عنه that Nabi صلی اللہ علیہ وسلم ordered that an unmarried man who committed illegal sexual intercourse be scourged one hundred lashes and sent into exile for one year. : Reference Bukhari: 2649; Book no. 52; In English volume no. 3; Book no. 48; Hadees no. 817.

25. Narrated by Zaid Bin Khalid Al-Juhani رضي الله عنه that I heard Nabi صلی اللہ علیہ وسلم ordering that an unmarried person guilty of illegal sexual intercourse be flogged one-hundred stripes and be exiled for one year. : Reference Bukhari: 6831 & 6832; Book no. 86; In English volume no. 8; Book no. 82; Hadees no. 818.

26. Narrated by Abu Hurairah رضي الله عنه that Nabi صلی اللہ علیہ وسلم said: “Allah will not look at a man who has intercourse with his wife in her buttocks.”  : Reference Ibn Ma-jah: 1998; Book no. 9; In English volume no. 3; Book no. 9, Hadees no 1923.

27. Abu Hurairah رضي الله عنه narrated that Nabi صلی اللہ علیہ وسلم said “Whoever engages in sexual intercourse with a menstruating woman, or a woman in her anus, consults a soothsayer, then he has disbelieved in what was revealed to Muhammad.” : Reference Tirmizi: 135; Book No. 1, In English volume no. 1; Book no.  1, Hadees no 135.

28. Narrated by Khuzaimah Bin Thabit رضي الله عنه that Nabi صلی اللہ علیہ وسلم said “Allah is not too shy to tell the truth,” three times. “Do not have intercourse with women in their buttocks.”  : Reference Ibn Ma-jah: 1999; Book no. 9; In English volume no. 3; Book no. 9, Hadees no 1924.

29. Narrated by Abu Hurairah رضي الله عنه that Nabi صلی اللہ علیہ وسلم said, “The one who commits an illegal sexual intercourse is not a believer at the time of committing illegal sexual intercourse and a thief is not a believer at the time of committing theft and a drinker of alcoholic drink is not a believer at the time of drinking. Yet, (the gate of) repentance is open thereafter.” : Reference Bukhari: 6810; Book no. 86; In English volume no. 8; Book no. 82; Hadees no. 801.

30. Narrated by Zaid Bin Khalid and Abu Huraira رضي الله عنه that Nabi صلی اللہ علیہ وسلم said, “O Unais! Go to the wife of this (man) and if she confesses (that she has committed illegal sexual intercourse), then stone her to death.”  : Reference Bukhari: 2314 & 2315; Book no. 40; In English volume no. 3; Book no. 38; Hadees no.508.

31. Narrated Ibn Umar رضي الله عنه that a Jews brought a man and a woman who had committed illegal sexual intercourse, to Nabi صلی اللہ علیہ وسلم and He صلی اللہ علیہ وسلم ordered them to be stoned to death, and they were stoned to death near the mosque where the biers used to be placed. : Reference Bukhari: 7332; Book no. 96; In English volume no. 9; Book no. 92; Hadees no. 432.

32. Narrated by Abdullah Ibn Abbas رضي الله عنه that, If a man who is not married is seized committing sodomy, he will be stoned to death. : Reference Abu Dawud: 4463; Book no. 40; In English Book no. 39; Hadees no. 4448. (Sodomy is having sex in unnatural way like oral sex, sex with animals or other means but mainly oral sex).

Dr. Muhiy Al-Deen Al-‘Alabi says that: “It is essential to refrain (prohibit) from having intercourse with a menstruating wife because doing so leads to an increase in the flow of menstrual blood, because the veins of the uterus are congested and prone to rupture, and get damaged easily; and the wall of the vagina is also susceptible to injury, so the likelihood of inflammation is increased, which leads to inflammation in the uterus and in the man’s penis, because of the irritation that occurs during intercourse. Having intercourse with a menstruating wife may also be off-putting to both the man and his wife, because of the presence and smell of blood, which may make the man impotent.

Dr. Muhammad Al-Baar said, speaking of the harm that may be caused to the menstruating wife: The lining of the uterus is shed during menstruation, and the uterus is scarred as a result, just like when the skin is flayed. So it is vulnerable to bacteria and the introduction of the bacteria that are to be found at the tip of the penis poses a great danger to the uterus.   Hence the penetration of the penis into the vagina at the time of menstruation is no more than the introduction of germs at a time when the body is unable to fight them.

Dr. Al-Baar thinks that the harm is not limited to what he describes of the introduction of germs into the uterus and vagina which is difficult to treat; rather it also extends to other things, 1. The spread of infection to the fallopian tubes, which may then become blocked, which in turn may lead to infertility or ectopic pregnancy, which is the most dangerous kind of pregnancy. 2. The spread of infection to the urethra, bladder and kidneys; diseases of the urinary tract are usually serious and chronic. 3. Increase of germs in the menstrual blood, especially gonorrhea germs.

The menstruating wife is also in a physical and psychological state that is not conducive to intercourse, so if it takes place it will harm her a great deal and cause her pains during her period, as Dr. Al-Baar said:

1.     Menstruation is accompanied by pains, the severity of which varies from one woman to another. Most women experience pains in the back and lower abdomen. For some women the pain is unbearable and has to be treated with medication and painkillers.

2.     Many women suffer depression and stress during their periods, especially at the beginning, and their mental and intellectual state is at the lowest level during menstruation.

3.     Some women suffer migraines just before their period starts, and the pain is severe and causes visual disturbances and vomiting.

4.     Women’s sexual desire decreases, and many women have no interest at all in sex during their periods. The entire reproductive system is in a state that is prone to sickness, so intercourse at this time is not natural and serves no purpose, rather it can cause a great deal of harm.

5.     A woman’s temperature drops during menstruation, as does her pulse and blood pressure, which makes her feel dizzy, exhausted and lethargic.

Dr. Al-Baar also mentions that the harm is not only caused to the woman by having intercourse with her, rather the man is also affected by this action, which may cause infection in his reproductive system which may lead to sterility as a result. The severe pains suffered as a result of this infection may be even worse than the sterility it causes.

Anal sex can expose its participants to two principal dangers: infections due to the high number of bacterias, fungus & infectious microorganisms which are not found elsewhere on the body, and physical damage to the anus and rectum due to their fragility, & there is a higher risk of passing on sexually transmitted infections & diseases, because the anal sphincter is a delicate, easily torn tissue that can provide an entry for pathogens. The high concentration of white blood cells around the rectum, together with the risk of tearing and the colon’s function to absorb fluid, are what place those who engage in anal sex at high risk of STIs.

People say we use condom, the condom can break or otherwise come off during anal sex, and this is more likely to happen with anal sex than with other sex acts because of the tightness of the anal sphincters during friction. Unprotected receptive anal sex (with an HIV positive partner) is the sex act most likely to result in HIV transmission. Other infections & problems  that can be transmitted or caused  by anal sex are piles, fissures, fistula, anal abscess, perforations, anal incontinence, warts,  HIV, AIDs, human papillomavirus (HPV) which can increase risk of anal cancer; typhoid fever, diarrhea, parasitic infection, & fever; amoebiasis; chlamydia cryptosporidiosis; E-coli infections; giardiasis; gonorrhea; hepatitis A; hepatitis B; hepatitis C; herpes simplex; Kaposi’s sarcoma-associated herpes simplex virus; lymphogranuloma venereum; Mycoplasma hominis; Mycoplasma genitalium; pubic lice salmonellosis; shigella; syphilis; tuberculosis; and Ureaplasma urealyticum & etc.

1. Avoid having sex with menstruating wife, Avoid anal sex, Avoid all unnatural ways of sex like masturbation, lesbianism, sodomy & etc.

2. Recite the Dua of Sunnah while ejaculation, perform wazoo after sex, perform wazoo in between 1st & 2nd intercourse, rest for sometime after intercourse, do not get fully naked, one can eat after sex but after wazoo, bath is compulsory after sex, bath in Sunnah way, fore play is allowed.

3. Be far from rapes, extra marital affair, sex with other spouse because Allah dislikes it very much & punishment of it is very severe.

4. Fulfill your sexual desire with your wife only because she is legal for you & you are legal for her, what Allah wants you to do, be safe your modesty. This lesson has 32 Hadees.